Member Photo Thread

[Jubal Early]

Thank you, Maggie and ZZ.

And this shows my color much better.

I absolutely stunningly love this.  For any negative comment you may receive, just think of the 5 women that admired your creativity without speaking up.

You are beautiful and I have no doubt it radiates from within.

[urs]

DavidM-

I understand what you are saying, and agree with much of it. However, I see our appearance as another form of expression that is not limited to standard concepts of what is "beautiful", and I don't think ornamentation should be out of the question if one is inclined towards it. We all have preferences in things like the clothes that we wear, the car that we drive, the way we decorate our house. All of these are forms of personal expression: "I am a big fan of plaid, so I will wear plaid often", "I love red sports cars, so I will drive one", "I like stained glass, so I am going to make all the windows in my house stained glass". Hair and make-up fall into this category. I think anyone, if they want to, should feel free to use their appearance as a format for expressing certain preferences. Those preferences should not have to be limited to what we see portrayed as "acceptable" preferences. When I don't feel like fixing my hair or make-up, I don't. And I don't think I look bad on those days, either. Others may think I've looked better ("Are you not feeling well?" "You look tired."), but that doesn't, and shouldn't, matter. Which is precisely my point.

I think that is part of the reason that a lot of people have a hard time understanding why I do what I do with my looks: it's not always about my looks. It is often about my preferences, where my looks are the medium for expressing them, like a canvas. For instance, I really like blue lately, so that's why my hair is blue and why I've been on the hunt for (another) great pair of blue shoes. Next month, I will likely be obsessed with a different color, so I will change my hair and buy lots of clothes or accessories or just stuff in general (like towels or even certain foods) in that color. You can tell what color phases I was in if you walk through my house - bathroom and dining area are aqua and cobalt, respectively, hallway and kitchen are celadon green, living room is chocolate brown, and I also added brown to the bathroom in my brown phase. I have four pairs of yellow shoes and one of the walls in my bedroom is yellow. I insisted on a white christmas tree this year so I could arrange all our ornaments in rainbow order, and then with the white background, the colors of ornaments would stand out more. Sometimes, I will repaint a room because my preferences have changed for the moment (kitchen's been repainted three times), and having the color on myself is just not enough. I have found ways to put stars, zebra print, stripes, and checkered patterns on my hair, simply because I was infatuated with how those looked at the time. I am less concerned with how these ideas will modify my appearance, and more concerned with how well I can see my particular preference at the time. Since I am highly responsive to color, this shows in the decisions I make regarding nearly every aspect of my life.

So, I think anyone who wants to should use their hair, face, or body for personal expression, but I don't think they should be concerned with other peoples' ideas about how they do that. And I don't think they should be made to feel inadequate or ugly because they have chosen to ignore societal norms in favor of their own. I think the pressure and behavior surrounding traditional concepts of beauty are tied up in the fact that many people (especially women) don't really know who they are or what they want; or, they know those things, but are scared or uncomfortable with sharing them, mostly due to the negative feedback they know they are likely to receive if they don't "fall in line". But that is the very problem: it's not about anyone else but us. Feedback in general, both good and bad, is irrelevant. We shouldn't need "permission" to like the things we like, but that's exactly how many of us behave. We trust other peoples' opinions above our own, even people we don't know. That's ridiculous. It's not my business what other people think of me, and it's generally of little or no consequence, anyway, especially if they are immature enough to judge me simply on the basis of my appearance. So, I simply encourage my clients to do what they want to do, to do what they like, no matter what that is, and not worry so much about what everyone else will think. We don't all have to be the same. It's not wrong to be different. And it's not wrong to convey those differences through our appearance. That's my point.

[David M]

Well, blue hair it is, then.   

[Son of Man]

Urs, you would even look great with blue skin.   : )
+1

[Krisikins]

Urs! How do you stop your hair going to absolute s#!t?!

i like blue but i find it turns green too fast! i think like an emerald green is my fave!

[Mrs Pumpkin]

I guess it's about time I added to this thread.



If you're not sure, I'm the one in the background 

[urs]

Urs! How do you stop your hair going to absolute s#!t?!

i like blue but i find it turns green too fast! i think like an emerald green is my fave!

I'm very careful. I don't overbleach (for the most part). The bright hair colors aren't damaging, either - they're basically like tinted conditioner. To be honest, it wouldn't kill me to cut off about 5 inches of it atm, since those ends are looking pretty rough right now. But I figure so long as I can still camouflage the damage, I'll keep the length. I tend to go through cycles. Once my hair gets to a point where it can't take anymore, I just cut it off and wear it spiky.

[Ratman]

Mrs. Pumpkin, You look a lot like the mother of my kids. +1 BTW I stopped calling her my ex.  Nobody should be labeled an ex in my book.

[leese]

I guess it's about time I added to this thread.



If you're not sure, I'm the one in the background 

+1, Wish I could join you, looks yummy.

[leese]

Mrs. Pumpkin, You look a lot like the mother of my kids. +1 BTW I stopped calling her my ex.  Nobody should be labeled an ex in my book.

That's sweet, Ratty.

[Hemingway]

Here I am....... beegorrah to be sure, to be sure!



So who had me figured for a Leprechaun-esque type character, with a flat cap, a beer gut and a big hat with a buckle on the front?

I bet you all did........

[Jezzebelle]

another irish hottie!  damn!

+1 hemmy 

[Jubal Early]

Here I am....... beegorrah to be sure, to be sure!

So who had me figured for a Leprechaun-esque type character, with a flat cap, a beer gut and a big hat with a buckle on the front?

I bet you all did........

Actually more like a fishing pole in one hand while yelling and shaking a fist at the sea with the other ... LOL

[styleislove]

Cute picture of the Moose I found in my bed:


Cute picture of the Moose I found in my bed, and the cute man I found in my bed:

[Ratman]

+1 Style for having a man in your bed.  Style does it with style....oh wait.  .

[leese]

Here I am....... beegorrah to be sure, to be sure!



So who had me figured for a Leprechaun-esque type character, with a flat cap, a beer gut and a big hat with a buckle on the front?

I bet you all did........

||wolf-whistle||

[styleislove]

+1 Style for having a man in your bed.  Style does it with style....oh wait.  .

:D Thanks. and indeed I do. Isn't he just a...cute thing? :3

[Sweetling]

An old friend posted this college pic, from maybe 1989, on Facebook.

[Ratman]

Another Hottie for sure, for sure.

[Sweetling]

One wonders how many other pictures are lurking out there, waiting to be publicized by some old buddies we can barely remember. And how (un)flattering they might be...

[catwixen]

An old friend posted this college pic, from maybe 1989, on Facebook.

awwwwwwwwwww how gorgeous! 

[Jezzebelle]

my fav pic from the latest igi survivor thing
me picking my nose

[catwixen]

Mwahahaha ^ there is a lot of nail up that nose! You are adorable.

[JudoChop]

Hey Hemingway, you handsome sod, nice tan too!

Here's me, I think my fire retardent suit really matches my hair.

[Captain Luke]

Michael Mcintyre!

[JudoChop]

I had to google that, some resemblance certainly, doesn't he look like Mike Myers though?

[Captain Luke]

I was looking at his squinty photos

[JudoChop]

I was looking at his squinty photos

You'd be particularly squinty if you had foam padding squashing your features into a hole roughly the size of a rubix cube.

[Captain Luke]

That's my normal friday night.

[JudoChop]

Either start complimenting me or no more Judo eyecandy for you! *points*