No... I'm saying that a single girl without children or boyfriend who does like men, that gets rapped is not like someone (male or female but heterosexual) who gets rapped by someone of same sex gender. There is a previous inner response of sexual rejection towards the gender of the rapist.
Since I cannot imagine a nice woman (not all rapists are ugly) who tries to force me into having sex as a painful experience, I admit I have some problems at understanding the tremendous shows of traumatic pain that I've seen on Discovery Channel or movies from raped women. It is even a normal thing that they don't want to be touched by ANY man and that they don't want men to talk to them, so it's obviously a big thing, I'm not denying it... just trying to understand it better because traumatized victims:
- Are not always virgins.
- Are not usually lesbians.
- Are not always on a relationship.
- Are not always beated (heavy violence).
- Are not always super religious girls.
So, what makes it so horrible for them?
Edit: Your reply is pretty good Urs, I can imagine that and it feels horrible... but here is what I wrote before reading your post, just in case you want to add something else.