If it is still valid to answer this, Kevin, his meaning is that when you mentioned it cost you $1500 once to keep your "silence" in court they were despising your tradition as much as you were despising theirs. I think i have the amount of money right but the rest of it may be all hogwash.
i was in an auto accident caused by an elderly and confused man. the cops asked if i would just let him go, and i said yes. he then sued me for the damage to his car. in court, when we were asked to stand and raise our hands for the oath taking ceremony, i explained to the judge that i wouldn't lie, but that as a quaker i could not take part in the ceremony. he explained that if i would not swear, i could not testify in my defense, and then judged against me for a $2500 lawsuit. he then lectured the old man for being a hazard and reduced the judgement by half because it was obviously his own fault, even with me not saying a word. i had already paid $150 so the cop could testify that i had told him not to ticket the old man, but the cop was not allowed to speak either.
i'm not sure where the idea of "despising" anything comes in. i don't swear because christ and james have said not to:
Mat 5:37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.
Jas 5:12 But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.
in addition, integrity requires me to adhere to a single standard of truth, and to agree to a truth-taking oath implies that there are some times or places where i take truth more seriously than others. that's not the case-- i don't lie at all, anywhere, oath or not.
"despising" anything isn't something i've ever said-- i simply don't participate in activities that violate my religion. oath taking ceremonies in a court of law violate what i conisder to be the commands of god.
if it costs me money to choose to follow god instead of a california judge, i'll take god and pay the money.